Rule 1: Always be confident in yourself - MAIN RULE !
People who have real confidence in themselves attract people naturally. When you are confident, the confidence shine through and it calls out to people. If you lack confidence due to physical appearance or obesity, make an effort to improve your looks and exercise.
Honestly, most girls (girls we want to date) don't care a lot about these things. Of course, if you are really over weight and you have bad teeth and you dress like a hobo, make an effort to change for the better.
It's that simple. If you want to be successful with women, you can't hide behind excuses when you fail. I know a lot of men who aren't rich and aren't good looking but are very successful with women because they act like they are good looking and they are rich, they act in ways that make men and women attracted to them.
A happy go lucky guy who smiles a lot will get 10x the amount of attention as a grouchy guy sitting in the corner no matter how hot or rich he is. Be happy with yourself, but if there is something holding you back from being a more outgoing person, fix it.
I had a large mole on my face and while no women seemed to care about it, it made me feel self conscious, so I got it removed. The only real difference I see now is not in my looks but in my personality. I feel better about MYSELF, I didn't do it for women's approval, I did it because I wanted to be more outgoing and feel better about myself.
Rule 2: Relax - be totally calm - act like u don't need her
As you can tell these rules are not in any particular order but when you first start dating someone, act calm, be cool. Especially on the first date. Don't be nervous, don't get all excited and act like a goof.
Don't act desperate around women, just be yourself and not worry about the outcome, dating should be fun! Women have an uncanny ability to pick up signs of nervousness and they also have built in lie detectors. So, if you are thinking of pulling a fast one, think again!
Rule 3: Be Cocky and Funny - be outgoing and have fun AND BE FUN TO BE AROUND - be charming/gentleman
You will hear me talk about being cocky and funny a lot in this book, it's something I learnt from another dating book (which if you have a couple hundred dollars spare, you should pick up at
Being cocky to me means not being afraid to joke around with women. Men are so scared to be themselves around women that they act all uptight and nervous and tongue tied. Most men by nature are not big mouth arrogant SOB's, so just say what's on your mind.
Talking about sex and other taboo subjects is FINE. However, do not go overboard. Teasing a girl lightly is fine, as long as it's funny and a little bit cocky. Be a fun guy to hang around, make dating fun for you and her.
Rule 4: Don't get emotional even if the woman does - women will test you - nothing to be insecure about
This rule IS SO IMPORTANT when you start dating someone more seriously. I made this mistake a couple of times early on and the relationships ended pretty soon after. If a woman says something to you that makes you feel nervous, angry, upset and you feel like you're going to get overly emotional and say something you will regret, FOR THE GOOD OF YOUR SANITY, Don't say anything.
It's a lot easier to say nothing than to retract what has already been said. Think before you speak. There are times when you will be blamed for things that are not your fault; things will happen in their lives that make them emotional. When that happens, your job is to stay calm.
I'll give you a personal example. I started dating a girl I REALLY liked, but a couple of weeks into the relationship, she told me she was pregnant and she wasn't sure who the father was, because before she started dating me, she was seeing two other guys.
I freaked out, and you probably think, well rightly so, and it was probably for the best that things ended, but, it still feels horrible if you are the one that is being dumped. I know this sounds childish, but it's true. It's a mental thing. Being dumped is a horrible feeling and takes longer to get over.