Keep Your Passions Under Lock and Key
You're snuggling on the couch, watching a movie. You start gazing into each other eyes, then lean into each other slowly. The kiss begins innocently, but quickly becomes more urgent. Your face flushes and your heart pounds as arms embrace.
The more you kiss, the more you crave. And before you know it, you've crossed the line. Sounds like a cheap romance novel, right?
Unfortunately, it's not. It's an everyday occurrence in the lives of many Christians who are dating. Eventually as any relationship progresses, physical intimacy will become an issue. But let me be perfectly clear on one thing:
God made us to be sexual beings. It's not a sin to feel sexual. It's what you DO with those feelings that can get you into trouble.
I know hard it can be. When Jason and Ronda were dating, their passions were almost at a constant boiling point. They were two healthy, vibrant human beings who wanted nothing more but to be together.
Was it a sin to feel this way? Of course not. God rejoices in the physical and spiritual union that takes place in the marriage bed.
Key words there: IN THE MARRIAGE BED.
It's kind of like a Christmas present. It's right there in front of you for days and days, looking inviting. You may even pick it up and shake it a time or two. But if you unwrap it before you're supposed to, you'll be very disappointed come Christmas morning, when you have nothing left to open.
And you'll wish you had never touched your present.
This is a very volatile subject with many engaged Christian couples. Some will use the excuse of "We're already married in our heart. The ceremony is only a formality. God want us to be together."
It's amazing what the human mind will rationalize when it's stimulated.
What a complete pile of baloney. To actually think that God would change His word so you could be together? Gimme a break. I know of a couple who remained kiss-and-hug-free for the last few weeks preceding their wedding. Dates and evenings spent together ended with a handshake and a quick exit.
Smart people. They knew their weaknesses and refused to flirt with danger.
It was also very hard for Ronda and Jason. Since Jason had been sexually active in the past, whenever they got cozy his natural tendency was to progress to the next level.
I'm not saying my friends were perfect. If they had it to do again, they would certainly change some things. But they made it to their wedding bed as virgins in the eyes of the Lord. And today, I quite sure they have a very healthy sex life.
If they can do it, you can too.
The best way to avoid breaking the physical intimacy barrier is not put yourself in a position where something could happen. Don't get too cuddly on the couch. Avoid lying on a bed together. Keep your hands to yourself.
Things can get out of hand way too quickly and before you know it, it's too late.
And when all else fails, RUN! It's better to flee from temptation than flirt with it. It's also important that you both agree on keeping passion in check before marriage as it takes two to tango. Once both has agreed, constantly remind yourself of your intention to stay off sex until marriage.