Love Changes Everything
Now that you know what every single Christian should be aware of before jumping into the dating game? Are you ready to go out there and make it happen?
BUT, before we dive into the deep end, let's make sure we have a few things in order first.
Here are some suggestions that could make a world of difference in the way you present yourself to other Christian singles and your success in the Christian dating world. You need to change ...
Years ago, another friend of mine, Jeff, was involved with a young lady for a brief time. He was completely smitten by her, but never felt like she had the same strong feelings for him. Then he found out why. One night, they were having a conversation about the things that they find most attractive in others. Jeff's list included eyes, smile, lips, noses (yeah, I know-it's a weird thing) and other physical aspects. Her list consisted of one thing:
She was attracted to confident men. And at that moment, Jeff knew why her feelings didn't run as deeply as his. That period in Jeff's life was a low one, to say the least. He had moved 350 miles from home to a town where he knew absolutely no one to take his first job out of college. He figured he was going to use his degree to make boatloads of cash and become a success overnight. Then the real world kicked in. After working hard for more than a year, Jeff quickly realized that he was not cut out for the position. Disillusioned and feeling like a failure, he quit.
With no prospects, no money, and no future, needless to say, Jeff was not feeling very confident. And his girlfriend at the time saw right through him. Long story short, that relationship didn't last much longer. Years later, Jeff can see now that they would have been totally incompatible for each other and he's glad it never worked out. But the point is, Jeff's lack of confidence made a huge difference in the way she saw him. If you're going to put yourself out on the playing field, you have to start bolstering your self worth. Remember, you're God's creation. He made you special, unlike any other. He loves you and has great plans for your life. Always bear in mind that no two person is alike and it's OK to be different.
And He wants you to be happy!
Many people lack confidence in the way they look, present company included. My spouse makes a point to compliment my appearance on a daily basis. Yet I STILL have issues with my teeth, skin, weight, and other things-even though I'm being told that I'm attractive EVERY DAY ! I struggle with confidence in this area, but with God's help, I know I can ditch those beliefs and change my outlook about who I am.
And believe me; if I can do it, you can too!
Two things you may want to consider to help you boost your confidence and turn the heads of single Christians are:
Eliminate Those People Who Bring You Down
Many of you may have a friend or family member who constantly derides you. Maybe they're critical of your appearance. Or the fact that you're still single (I see lots of nodding heads out there). There are many reason for the hostility but the plain fact remains... That these people are detrimental to your confidence level and are hindering your relationship with God. Getting past this is definitely not easy, but can be done.
First of all, pray for strength and guidance. Then confront them privately about the issue. Tell them exactly how you feel. Sometimes, they're not even aware of what they're doing.
Also, tell them you've forgiven them for what they've done. Often, this one statement will melt the hardest of hearts. If that doesn't solve the problem, do anything you can to keep them at arm's length. It may be difficult and you may hurt some feelings, but your well being is paramount here. Besides, if there were something in your life that was obviously coming between you and what the Lord desires for you, wouldn't you want to move it out of the way?
Get a New Look
There's nothing like a significant change in your appearance to bring your confidence level up a couple of notches. It's the oldest trick in the book, but also one of the most effective. Jason's wife recently made a commitment to shedding a few pounds by utilizing a walking program from a leading fitness trainer. She's been going at it solid for about 6 months now, and the change in her has been tremendous. She's sleeping better, has more energy, and feels wonderful. She hasn't reached her goal yet, but she's getting there, day by day.
Her confidence level has shot through the roof and so has her level of attractiveness to Jason. Not necessarily in a physical way, but in her attitude. He's REALLY diggin' it!
Hey, you can do this too. It's not rocket science, just a commitment to looking and feeling better. So go buy a new outfit. Get your hair colored. Join a fitness program. It's completely up to you. One thing's for sure: You'll look great, feel great, and have an awesome new attitude towards life.
Oh, and other Christian singles will definitely take note. ;)
Don't procrastinate - start working on cranking up your confidence level today. You'll be amazed at the results, both inside and out.